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4 months ago I applied to live on campus at my University. I spent hours writing my application, I sent it in the day applications opened and waited nervously. Near the end of January I received a letter saying that my application had been unsuccessful. I was devastated. It was 4 weeks before I moved and I had absolutely no idea where I was going to live! But everything happens for a reason right? I have learnt a lot about dealing with disappointments this year. Here is my 4 steps to dealing with disappointments...
1. Allow yourself to feel disappointed
Starting something new is always super exciting and sometimes a little scary. When something doesn't go to plan it can be devastating and make everything a whole lot more scary. The first thing people say when you tell them disappointing news is usually some variation of 'oh well you'll be okay! Cheer up!' They aren't wrong. Whatever happens you will be ok! But it's okay not to feel okay straight away. Sometimes you need a little bit of time to process your feelings and readjust. It is important not to get stuck in this phase. Give your self a day to feel disappointment and then its time to pick yourself back up and move on (even if it's really hard!)
2. Turn your set back into a come back
Don't give up! Try and gain some perspective. Maybe it won't be exactly like you planned but does that mean your dream is really over? The day after I got this letter I was ready to quit Uni before it even started. It all became way too scary! I loved working as an Integration Aide this year and I was comfortable there. But then I thought about how scared I was when I first began working as an Aide and when I flew overseas to volunteer. Both of these opportunities changed my life and I know University too. Studying psychology is something I have dreamed of for a long time and nothing will stop me chasing that dream.
3. Get inspired
When you are disappointed it is easy to forget why you wanted it in the first place. Time to remind yourself! My friends are all back for the summer and talking to them about their experiences at Uni has me excited. I have family near by, including a 2 year old cousin who is growing up way too fast! Living in Melbourne I'll get to see my friends and family a lot more. There are lots of other opportunities that I wouldn't get living in a small town like dance classes, community choirs and cool new places to visit. Doing a Bachelor of Psychology opens up so many opportunities for me to help people and I can't really imagine myself doing anything else.
4. Be grateful
If volunteering in developing countries teaches you one thing it is to be grateful. I met people who would do anything to have just one of the many opportunities I will have this year. Not many of them even had the opportunity to attend high school. I am so grateful that I have the opportunity to go to University. I'm grateful that I have parents who can afford to support me. I'm grateful to have family and friends to turn to when things go wrong and I'm grateful that I have been given the opportunity to make a difference.
Keep fighting for what you want! If it is meant to be it will be xo
Love, Jessica
2. Turn your set back into a come back
Don't give up! Try and gain some perspective. Maybe it won't be exactly like you planned but does that mean your dream is really over? The day after I got this letter I was ready to quit Uni before it even started. It all became way too scary! I loved working as an Integration Aide this year and I was comfortable there. But then I thought about how scared I was when I first began working as an Aide and when I flew overseas to volunteer. Both of these opportunities changed my life and I know University too. Studying psychology is something I have dreamed of for a long time and nothing will stop me chasing that dream.
3. Get inspired
When you are disappointed it is easy to forget why you wanted it in the first place. Time to remind yourself! My friends are all back for the summer and talking to them about their experiences at Uni has me excited. I have family near by, including a 2 year old cousin who is growing up way too fast! Living in Melbourne I'll get to see my friends and family a lot more. There are lots of other opportunities that I wouldn't get living in a small town like dance classes, community choirs and cool new places to visit. Doing a Bachelor of Psychology opens up so many opportunities for me to help people and I can't really imagine myself doing anything else.
4. Be grateful
If volunteering in developing countries teaches you one thing it is to be grateful. I met people who would do anything to have just one of the many opportunities I will have this year. Not many of them even had the opportunity to attend high school. I am so grateful that I have the opportunity to go to University. I'm grateful that I have parents who can afford to support me. I'm grateful to have family and friends to turn to when things go wrong and I'm grateful that I have been given the opportunity to make a difference.
Keep fighting for what you want! If it is meant to be it will be xo
Love, Jessica
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I totally agree with everything you said! Sometimes we have to allow ourselves to feel sad and disappointed in order to move on. It's okay to be sad for a while but then we have get ourselves together, chin up and move on :) And I guess the problem is that a lot of times, at least it happens with me - I create high expectations in my head about everything and then, when things don't happen how I expected them to, I get disappointed. And it's okay, we just need to lear how to deal with it! And if going to university to study psychology is something you really want, don't let any setbacks make you give up :) good luck with everything!!
ReplyDeleteAnd about the camera, I use my dad's Nikon D5000 but the editing helps a lot too. And I actually use the vsco app, it's easy & works amazing for me :) xo
I am the same! I imagine things exactly how I want them to be and I get disappointed when it doesn't work out that way.
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Oh cool I'll definitely check out the app! :) Thanks xo